In my mind’s eye I can still visualize two little girls wheeling their baby carriages down the streets of Smalltown, U.S. A. in the mid 1940’s. Little would it be known then, that they would be at each other’s beckon call, so far, forever? If I need a friend, I call Martha on the east coast. If Martha needs a friend, she calls me on the west coast. Neither of us has been without a friend in need, indeed. We are always there for each other no matter what, and a lot of no matter what’s have been in our lives.
When you know Martha is just a phone call away, it smooth’s out your life so much that you do not even feel the bumps and you surely sail over all other humps and lumps that Martha smooth’s. I have noticed my true friend cares what she can do for me, and her concerns seem to revolve around me at my time of need. That is such a warm and healing feeling. A true friend enriches your life and you, theirs, in return.
What I have learned from my friend Martha is to make myself available, listen, be accepting, offer ideas that are helpful, and certainly be patient, and be supportive. How do I know; my friend showed me so.
Martha has gone through some pretty thick and thin times and so have I. We are about even on that score, but recently her side got so much thicker. This time I worried about being enough of a support for her. I acted immediately to be there for her, to listen and be responsive. Martha wasn’t there; she was off in a cloud of pressure. All she could do was ask me what she could do for me. Oh Martha, you sweet dear Martha, we both will need to do for each other. You said, “I value your friendship and let us take the days as they come. This is my fight and I will do it with your help.”
Days passed into months and soon a year was over. We talked and talked. As time passed, she relied on me to tell her what I did that day. We got down to the nitty gritty of peeling apples for applesauce. When given apples, what else, make applesauce. After all is said and done, applesauce is the heart of the matter.
If ever there is a time I need a friend like Martha, it is now. Today she is not here and she will only forever after be here in my mind. Goodbye Martha, I will still talk to you everyday in my inside voice. I will remember something you have said to me everyday. I will not forget you, and I know somewhere you are remembering me. I love you Martha.