Morning’s With Melissa


On a very special morning, Melissa, bless her heart, has been spending her time scanning through my computer, where I have been saving many of my, ‘Photo Shopped’, painting’s, stories, some of my heart felt writings. She spent time printing many of the items she liked and began to collate them according to how they fit together. Pretty soon a real book began to take shape. I was stunned, and so pleased, and am now on cloud nine thousand. Imagine having a lovely, creative, helpful, and brilliant caregiver with qualities unbeknownst to both of you!

We spent days and days reading and rereading, grouping and regrouping the pages. We were finally pleased with the results. We scheduled an appointment with a printing company. Within a week we were presented with a lovely book. I was so happy to share it with many of my friend’s and family. What a job!

Some how this morning we got onto the topic of morals and values, the ones you carry with you as you live your life, which still remains a mystery, but a deep study of ourselves ensued. I asked Melissa to touch her heart and feel answers to some questions, morals, and values, she has accumulated over the time spent connected to her world.

Melissa, I want to ask you, what are your values?  We discuss values for a while. She has a big smile on her face and she says, “I get this, and it’s my thing.” Her smile is growing and she is thinking.  We write her responses down and begin to examine each entry.  She states: “I have a good heart.  I want to help people.  Helping people has always one of my main goals.”

‘I value Love plus Respect, the thoughts and ideas of others.’ I read this quote a long time ago, but it is still in my mind.

Melissa softly recites “You should often picture yourself in another persons shoes before you make a judgment.”  She adds, “It is important to me, to cherish the people I love. You need to have integrity.  That means doing what I say I’m going to do, and do it! Feeling pleased with my best effort, my strong foot forward, and my heart in the right place is how I live my life.  I enjoy having a reason to do things, never do things out of pettiness or to hurt others. I believe in treating everyone the way you want to be treated!”



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6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Nuala Ryan
    Oct 12, 2019 @ 11:04:45

    Oh! This is powerful, Sheila.
    You have an enlightened Care Companion on your journey.
    I prefer Care Companion rather than Care Giver.
    Melissa, you are birthing a book to be written by you!
    Thank you to both of you.


    • Sheila Clapkin
      Oct 13, 2019 @ 10:27:28

      Hello Nuala, We prefer care-companion as well it means so much more. Not only do you see the power in other people but you are powerful yourself! The door is always open to you. Love and friendship. M & S


  2. tom iaccino
    Oct 13, 2019 @ 07:26:44

    it has been my pure joy to read your last few blogs!!!
    They bring a joy to my heart!
    Great to hear you have a caregiver who is now a friend.
    Talk about a twofer!!


    • Sheila Clapkin
      Oct 13, 2019 @ 10:25:08

      Hello Tom, you have touched my heart as well, and I told Melissa what a wonderful fellow you are. You help everyone!
      I appreciate your kind message and your friendship. M & S


  3. Dina Marshall
    Oct 15, 2019 @ 20:37:30

    I am so happy to hear about the productive time you two spend together. It’s the most magnificent care companion situation!


  4. nancy Cousins
    Oct 16, 2019 @ 01:06:31

    Hi Sheila, you and skip impressed me when we met on our travels. as I read your blogs, ,I know why.I am happy to see you have such a wonderful person as a care companion and friend sharing your life at this point who appears to have so many of your fine qualities.
    larry and I are presently in new Zealand till sunday.
    take care and continue to enjoy each day.


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