What If you saw Criticism as “Terms of Endearment?”

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You perhaps would be able to rule the world, if not the whole entire world, certainly, your world by changing criticism into encouraging “Terms of Endearment.” You would see the doom and gloom portions of your life as bright and full of healing sunlight. Let us take an expression of disapproval, make it approval, fault finding, making it an authorization, having a condemnation, turn into consent, dealing with recrimination and blame turning into acceptance and reception. Are you getting the point? If we continuously turn critical judgments and take fault, we are hurting the stem of our mental and physical wellbeing. I know, I have lived with criticism as a means to motivate me to do better, produce more, climb higher and it worked until it didn’t.

What if you and I take the criticism we get in the next few days and turn it into “Terms of Endearment,” what will change? When a critical moment comes and you are actively changing that moment into love, acceptance and affection, then you feel the internal change immediately.  You are so stymied; you do not know how to react. You do not even remember having to feel this way before now. Heretofore, upon hearing criticism, you have turned yourself into a stick, a brick, and an inanimate object in order to ward off the attack. Instead you have created a complex new relationship with self-enjoyment. Yes, enjoyment. When you are actively changing negative messages into love and affection, approval and acceptance, you feel proud, strong, valued, a prize with great worth.  Honestly, if you surround yourself with constant barrages of endearment, you will rule. You will rule a kinder, happier self, you will spill this endearment over into your family, community, your place of work and in that way rule your world from a satisfied, cheerful place. Congratulations on a good positive choice. Remember, this seed of turning criticism into “Terms of Endearment” has been planted and you have to practice this concept to make it grow and flourish in your life.

5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Brendelle
    Mar 09, 2014 @ 10:01:13

    Thanks for continuing your blog as they seem to strike a chord within me and keep me focused and seeking guidance……Term of Endearment especially today caught my focus and is worth sending forward……lalso liked this drawing..,very cheerful.


  2. Gary Friedman
    Mar 09, 2014 @ 11:56:11

    Europeans don’t have this problem. 🙂

    I’ve always considered criticism to be my friend. How else can you know how to improve?


    • Sheila Clapkin
      Mar 10, 2014 @ 13:15:49

      When you are taught criticism is a friend you are leaps and bounds ahead of some of us who did not get that lesson early on. Some of us get it later and some of us not at all. You have brought out an important concept for us to consider. Thank you friend…


  3. Cristiano
    Apr 13, 2014 @ 09:19:20

    Sir Namaste From Devsingh Gurung, Farnborough UK. It is not best time to comment. I know it is too late. Anyway thank you. It is alawys nice to hear from such a respected known person. As a Ghandruke I feel shame that you(Respected Sir) represent the voice of Ghandruk instead of genuine Ghandruke person. I offer many thanks behalf of all oversea’s Ghandruke. At last extent our warm regards to Dharmashila madam and all family. Devsingh Gurung( Gahira Gaun,8) Farnborough(U.K)


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