So You Think It is Yours!


We had our worldly goods protected by creating a joint Grantor Trust in 2009. We had one page after another explaining in detail what we wanted to our last piece of dust. Air tight, therefore, water proof. We have had several amendments and a Durable Power of Attorney over health added, but basically it should have remained the same.

We are acquiring a fingerling of land joined to our property as an easement. We feel that this is a wonderful addition especially because it allows us to step out onto a giant hill overlooking much of the San Fernando Valley into the Santa Suzanna Mountains. All of a sudden, now that the pile has been stirred, up comes something we did not expect in the next million years. Mr. owns the house. What? Yes, somehow when our house was being recorded, or perhaps re-recorded to comply with our new trust, the recorder, lazy bum, recorded only Mr.’s name and the last two words, which names a trust we do not, and never had.

I haven’t slept a wink. This morning Mr. says” Don’t worry, I will not charge you rent. You can still have your half of the bed, and things can go along just the same even if it is my house!” Ha, so he thinks. Oh, when the kitchen is a mess, and the house is dirty, whose house is it? I say his. He better live, I told him, otherwise I think probate is what you tried to circumvent in the first place and in the last.

We will get this all straighten out, until the next lazy bum records something inaccurately. By the way, here is something you may wish to check. We thought perhaps the Property Tax Bill would show names. It certainly did. Showed Mr.’s name and his last name as it is on the trust. Oh so wrong, Oh so disturbing that the names have been that way for so many years and no one ever noticed long enough to realize the error. All we can do now is have it re-recorded and hope the next recorder has had an extra cup of coffee that morning. Of course Mr. and Mrs. will be on guard!

When all is said and done, you are invited over for a glass of wine, and we will step out onto the fingerling of land and take in the beautiful lights of the valley below. Every time I go out there from now on, I will say a prayer for all of us, thanking all powers that make mistakes and free the error mongers, me included, from blame.

All is set in stone, the house is properly documented in shared trust format, and the fingerling property now goes with the house in perpetuity. Amen!


16 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Joyce Hopping Rettela
    Feb 22, 2016 @ 14:49:48

    Sheila, Isn’t it fun to have to check up on others that are supposed to be doing their job? I have been doing the same thing today after discovering that our mutual policy’s are listed wrong on the web site. This was done by a young whipper snapper IT tech. I forgive him though. They try. We are then known as nit pickers, ha, ha. Such is life. Enjoy your day and your view.


    • Sheila Clapkin
      Feb 22, 2016 @ 15:49:35

      The constant checking and the wide range of errors actually gives me explained panic attacks. I have meds for them, but generally do not take once I recognize it is not my error. Then, I panic again at the task to undo their errors. There is so much to know these days that I just drink a tall glass of…ice water and lie down awhile.
      Somehow it must be the ice because all is solvable once again. Keep breathing in and out, in and out. All is well.💗


  2. Pat Rieffanaugh
    Feb 22, 2016 @ 15:34:03

    Check, double check, and check again. That seems to be the mantra these days! So glad you found the error and had it corrected before it became a bigger issue one day in the future!


    • Sheila Clapkin
      Feb 22, 2016 @ 15:45:43

      Can you imagine what a mess in the future is right. It was a shock as well as as bit of a go here and now. It feels very good to have a job done and not worry anymore.
      This afternoon my visa came with a 1,341.00 for Fire Arms. Oh really? After calling I was helped to see that they had deleted it on another page. I’m not that savy, but glad I did not have to fight it! Fire arms??/ Right, right, check and double check.


  3. Dina
    Feb 22, 2016 @ 19:06:06

    Oh my gosh! Now I want to double check everything. Fire Arms…lol.


    • Sheila Clapkin
      Feb 23, 2016 @ 08:21:04

      Sometimes all that paperwork becomes garble to me. Even if you do check perhaps something will pop up. Just make certain you see your name on everything, I guess huh???


  4. marci
    Feb 22, 2016 @ 20:08:23

    Shit, Shit, Shit. More Than lazy… How about stupid Person. Sometimes coffee wont help that type…


  5. Sheila Clapkin
    Feb 23, 2016 @ 08:22:40

    Sometimes coffee will not help a scattered mind. You are right.But sometimes it smooths it out. There are fowl ups often and they say, well we are only human. Then, I say to some people, well act like it….


  6. nancy cousins
    Feb 23, 2016 @ 11:55:38

    Assume nothing and double check everything!


  7. Sheryl
    Feb 24, 2016 @ 20:04:33

    Whew!! Sometimes I think that there is still a bit of sexism out there among recorders. Thank goodness you discovered the issue and are getting it straightened out.


  8. Sheila Clapkin
    Feb 25, 2016 @ 10:24:18

    Sheryl, sexism, darn them…didn’t think of it that way. But yes yes. I bought a car, my money, my choice and the salesman talked only TO my husband. Consequently I did not buy a car from him. Skip and I made the Dutch Apple cake together. It is delicious. Cake was pudding like, but definitely a cake.We took a photo of it to share with you. Then, cut it up and put pieces on the neighbor’s doorsteps. Yummy


    • Joyce Hopping Rettela
      Feb 27, 2016 @ 08:50:45

      Oh Sheila, I want to buy a new car in the next five years, yes, my car, my money, pay in full, and they still kept us waiting four to five hours when I got the last one 14 years ago. Not looking forward to another experience like that. In the 80’s I was writing down what the salesman was telling us, and he actually tried to grab the paper away from me. Didn’t want his words to come back to haunt him. You put pieces of cake on the neighbor’s doorsteps! Was that a kind gesture or are you upset with them? Sounds funny. Have a good day, the sun is shining, bring on some rain.


  9. Sheila Clapkin
    Feb 27, 2016 @ 12:57:30

    I think the next time anything like talking to someone other that ME when I am buying I have enough guts to tell them why they are annoying me and not interested unless they follow MY rules. I used to be too shy to say things like that.

    A cake is usually too much for just the two of us or when we have parties lots of desserts are left over. So, I put cake and or cookies in a container and put them on the neighbors doorstep. So far I have received positive responses. We have lived with them for over 40 years. Gee, I never thought they might NoT enjoy the gesture. But you know, I’d better start thinking about it.

    Yes, you have a good day, too. The sun is still shining.😀


    • Joyce Hopping Rettela
      Feb 27, 2016 @ 14:26:34

      You go for it girl. We are old enough to talk back and speak our peace, respectively of course. We share a lot here in Leisure World also. I just got back from my mini farm plot where I picked sweet pea flowers, beets, carrots, tomatoes and enough snow pod peas to last all week. I enjoy planting, growing and picking more than fixing. If we get to the grocery store today, we may eat out, maybe sushi and tempura. The veggies will keep. Always good to hear from you.


  10. Sheila Clapkin
    Feb 27, 2016 @ 16:15:41

    Oh this is quite fun. I am going to quote you somewhere down the line about talking back and speaking our peace, respectively, of course. Watch for it..We are a team, always have been, by the way, You plant, grow and pick and I’ll do the fixing. I do love the fixing part. Oh yes, get tired of it here and there, but it really does give me an outlet. Enjoy today! The time is Now!


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